The last thing my teacher asked of me, before I severed all ties, was
that I respect her and her husband’s confidence as they’d respected
mine. My teacher and her husband had sexualised their pastoral relationship
with me when I was at school. I was 15 when the relationship started,
in my 20s before I was free of them.
When I’m asked to describe the relationship now, I find it difficult to make others understand. It was a bit like joining a cult. My teacher was a key mentor. I was thrilled to be invited to her house one weekend. Soon I was spending all my time with her and her husband. They were like parents – it felt like they were better than my real parents because they were so interested in me. Over time, I lost contact with friends my own age. There was only my teacher and her husband. And then the sexual contact started – first initiated by him, and then both of them.
https://www.theguardian.com/books/2017/apr/26/she-might-not-know-it-but-a-faceless-public-servant-helped-save-my-life
When I’m asked to describe the relationship now, I find it difficult to make others understand. It was a bit like joining a cult. My teacher was a key mentor. I was thrilled to be invited to her house one weekend. Soon I was spending all my time with her and her husband. They were like parents – it felt like they were better than my real parents because they were so interested in me. Over time, I lost contact with friends my own age. There was only my teacher and her husband. And then the sexual contact started – first initiated by him, and then both of them.
https://www.theguardian.com/books/2017/apr/26/she-might-not-know-it-but-a-faceless-public-servant-helped-save-my-life